Meeting at the Nursing Home

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m called into meeting at the nursing home this morning. Care plans and insurance problems and the fact I smuggle Ma whiskey… why not? Absolutely seriously why the fuck not? She hasn’t started any fights. Ma was always the happy drunk, the fun drunk. She took a real, pure joy from her drink. Something that always made me a little envious. I was the mean drunk, the one begging for a fight, I’d fight with anyone. If I found no takers I’d storm out and find another bar. I was the one who, when someone looked up and saw me come through the door would say, “not this asshole again…”

Pretty funny scene, me, the ultimate drunk, the drunks drunk, smuggling his 88 years old crazy mother booze. Again, why not? What exactly are we preserving here? That’s the answer no one can give me that one.

This place is staffed with wonderful people and I mean that with all sincerity; If there is a god and if there is a heaven the people who work in these places must certainly be from there. How they walk through those doors every day — with a smile — I’ll never comprehend. But I don’t care how nice the facility, how kind and pretty the nurses are, how upbeat and positive the pictures of kittens and sunsets on the wall, these places take me dark.

Preachers show up with books and pamphlets about salvation. I think it scares her. There is quite enough death here without trying to shine it up and sell it. Many here wait for death. It’s a vigil, not a life. Let her forget that reaper at the door for the day. I’ve asked the preachers to leave the her alone. They seem to have a compulsion to sell their story. Ma has always been a person of faith, not religion. These guys confound her and scare her.

I walk down hallways and empty shells with hollow eyes are grabbing out with a skinny, almost opaque hands, begging me to take them with me. Like hands from a grave.

Pills and pills and pills, designed and delivered to keep this personal Hell going for another day.

My cousin and I have a pact. The last man standing will bring the other a different pill. Lay it down on the over the bed table, by the half eaten Jello containers and the straws and spilled water and TV remotes, so mysterious with all the buttons and numbers, numbers that used to mean something, but now are just one more thing to confound. Just lay the pill in the table, shake hands and hug and leave.

I’ll not lay there pissing in a diaper. I’ll not lay there quietly. Restrain me, label me a danger to myself and others. I will kick you and the world in the balls if you approach me. Tie my hands and legs and load me up with Thorazine, my days of pretending to be sober long since past, and let me wait for Bobby and the pill.

2 thoughts on “Meeting at the Nursing Home”

  1. Well said. As for your mom … why not? Like worrying that a terminal cancer patient in pain will become addicted if given enough meds to be, at the very least, comfortable. How ludicrous is that?
    Then there’s the mechanics of being alive, breathing, heartbeat, etc., versus having some quality of life. Medicine can keep a body going. And going and going. But like lots of things, just because you can does not mean you should. Each individual should have the final say in any end of life decisions. No matter their age. I’m not talking about a spur of the moment decision but a well thought out choice with lots of input from the right people. And no guilt from the religion pushers. Other countries do it and there’s been no smiting from above.
    You have someone you trust to help you if needed. We should all be so lucky.
    Although if the Pillage +Plunder Party get their way there won’t be funding to keep most of us waiting around in a nursing home . After bankrupting our families we’ll be in someone’s home for the duration. Keeping them from working so they can care for us and further damaging them financially, at the very least.
    Like you I don’t plan on letting the end of my life get to that point. Time will tell how that works out.

  2. I really enjoy your comments. I’m glad I’m not alone in this and what I feel. I’ve said a thousand times – what, exactly are we preserving here? I’ve also said she should have a choice in this. I feel like s jailor. Like I did this to her. Now, with the Plunder and Pillage parties disgusting new plan, god knows what’s going to happen.

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